Restorative Relationships facilitator feedback
Restorative Relationships (Relationships without Conflict) and Parenting without Conflict
These two programmes focus on how restorative principles and skills can underpin healthy relationships and our parenting styles. These programmes are often delivered in sequence and we have delivered both programmes in Cumbria as part of the PCC’s ‘Turning the Spotlight‘ initiative between April 2015 and October 2017. The programmes are also delivered in prison and probation settings.
We encourage our programme facilitators to be honest with us in their feedback. The following comment, following delivery of our Restorative Relationships programme is a little raw, with a welcome twist:
“We had a participant who stayed firmly in the ‘TO’ box. He was constantly late, disrupted the sessions and distracted other participants. Given the group again I would probably have asked for guidance on whether to ask him to leave. We tried reviewing the group rules, delivered a specific session on passive aggressive behaviour, did restorative questions and I had a couple of chats with him individually at break time. And no change …. the positive of this was that at session 9 he was really beginning to irritate those that were there to learn. They dealt with it using all the skills we had taught them. Good result!”
Comments from facilitators of our Parenting without Conflict programme are equally powerful:
“There was a consistent level of high engagement. Three members of the group were particularly highly motivated in a way that expressed itself through their enthusiasm and full engagement with all activities.”
“Overall there were some extraordinary outcomes in their application of the techniques between sessions and a sense at the end that the course had been extremely worthwhile and the techniques and learning would continue to be used. A few members will clearly expand their learning in the future around restorative thinking.”
“Examples included: sibling conflicts resolved through restorative questioning; improvement in relationship with a step child through listening and looking for another’s needs; calming infant tantrums through holding rather than conflict thanks to new knowledge of how the brain works; the severing of an (adult) relationship on understanding that needs were not being met; conflict resolution in everyday life while dog walking.”
Thank you to all our facilitators!